Law of Attraction for CSL

Achieving Goals & Releasing Attachment

RELEASING AND GOALS

"Society has perpetuated the myth that to get anywhere in life you have to work hard. My question for you is, "Have you ever worked hard?"

Your answer is probably the same as most people: "Yes!"

Well, has it produced the results you want in life?

If you are like most people, you answered: "No. No it hasn't. I'm tired, frustrated, angry, and just don't believe I can get what I really want."

Is the answer to work even harder? Is the answer to create even more stress in your life by taking bigger risks and spreading yourself even thinner?

I don’t think so!

“If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten.”

If this is true, and I'm sure at least some part of you recognizes that it is, then why do we continue to fall into the trap of thinking, "If only I worked harder I'd have everything I want"?

Would you rather work harder or would you rather just have what you want? It's an easy question for most of us to answer!

Setting and achieving goals can be effortless when you "let go" of the feelings that are holding you back from achieving them. When you do this, a world of opportunity that has always existed for you becomes obvious and easily available to you.

The following contains edited excerpts from The Sedona Method. Course. This course contains all the best of the latest advances in goal setting, as well as lots of new material previously available only through our advanced courses. These excerpts will help you to start to actually achieve your goals.

Wording a goal correctly can make all the difference between achieving it or not. In fact, simply writing down your goals is one of the keys to achieving them. Studies of groups of successful, goal-oriented people have shown that people who write down their goals are approximately 80% more likely to achieve them than people who just think about them.

KEYS TO WRITING EFFECTIVE GOALS

Phrase it in the now.

Most of us fall into the trap of thinking that we're going to create what we want in the future. And the future never seems to come. How many times have you said to yourself, "I'll do that tomorrow," and you didn't do it?

Whenever you're holding in mind, "I'm going to do this later, or tomorrow, or next week, or next year," you project your goal into the future and the future never seems to come.

Phrase it in the positive.

Focus on the solution. Avoid putting in the goal that problem which you're trying to get rid of. For instance, what if you would like to stop smoking? The goal would not be phrased, "I allow myself to stop smoking." The mind does not translate the words "not," "don't," "stop," or any of the other words of negation.

The mind thinks in pictures. Right now, try not to think of a white elephant.

What do you think of?

A white elephant! Put something in the goal that the mind can visualize. For example, "I allow myself to be a non-smoker." You can picture being a non-smoker. That's something you can see - other people who aren't smoking. So it makes a big difference to word your goals in this manner.

The goal should feel real or realistic.

Suppose you are making $1,000 a week, but what you would really like to earn is $10,000 a week. Upping your income from $1,000 to $10,000 might be too big a jump for you to accept in just one specific goal. So you might want to start with $2,500 a week. That's a stretch from where you are, but it may seem more real or realistic to you.

The more you make your goals attainable, that is, something that the mind can accept as at least a possibility, the more likely you will be able to release any obstacle you have within you to achieving the goal.

Include yourself in the goal statement.

In other words, if you want to clean your house, you might want to phrase your goal as, "I allow myself to clean my house," as opposed to, "The house is clean." If you say, "The house is clean," you might not believe it. You might also start waiting for a miracle to happen so that the house gets clean by itself. If you've had tremendous resistance to cleaning your house and then you release on this goal, "I allow myself to easily clean the house," you may just find yourself easily cleaning the house.

Be precise and concise.

Use as few words as possible while at the same time making sure you are enthusiastic when you hear the goal. In other words, you don't want to put everything but the kitchen sink in one goal. Years ago, there was a man in a class who set up a goal, "I allow myself to have an abundant income so that I can have a new car, a house in the country, the maids to take care of the second house, and the perfect woman to have a relationship with to share all this."

As you can see there are several goals in that one goal, and they are all pulling in different directions. So the instructor helped this person simplify the goal by helping him break it down into specific individual goals. Then they created an umbrella goal that was appropriate for the whole situation which was, "I allow myself to have the good things in life and enjoy them." See how that includes everything? It doesn't cause you to pull into all sorts of conflicting directions.

Make sure you word it to facilitate letting go.

One area where you could get yourself into trouble is in the area of relationships. If you make a goal stating: "I allow Mary (or Joe) to love me," that could get you into trouble. First of all, you'll be running around doing all these things to try to get them to love you. And what if they are not even the right person for you?

This could tend to get you really stuck. Whereas if you phrased your goal, "I allow myself to have a loving relationship," then the goal is more open and inclusive. It might be with the person you're having a relationship with now, or it might not.

Eliminate the word "want" from your goals.

We talk in detail about how 'wanting' prevents 'having' in the audio course. But in general, would you rather want to have a lot of money, or would you rather just have it? Would you rather want the perfect relationship, or would you rather have the perfect relationship? Would you rather want good health, or would you rather have good health? "Want" equates to the feeling of lack, so avoid putting the feeling of lack in the goal.

Phrase it so you're focusing on the end result, not your means of achieving it.

For instance, go back to the earlier example of having a net income of $2,500 a week. Don't put how you're going to get it. I've heard people word goals like this: "I allow myself to make $2,500 a week by working 18 hours a day, 6 days a week," and a whole list of other actions that they thought they needed to take in order to achieve their goal.

What you will discover is that very often the actions you think you need to take in order to get the goal have absolutely nothing to do with the goal. They are only limitations or artificial obstacles that you're putting in your way. Also you'll notice as we work on goals that we'll specifically release on the action steps that you can take in order to get the goal. Always allow for the unexpected. What if someone gives you a large amount of money? What if you win the lottery? There are so many things that could happen to allow that goal to come into your awareness.

Word it in either courageousness, or acceptance, or peace.

"I allow myself to..." or "I can..." is a good way to start a goal in courageousness. "I have... " is a good way to start a goal in acceptance. And "I am..." is a good way to start a goal in peace. We've talked a lot about the "I allow myself to...," which is a very good way of wording a goal.

If you're not in courageousness about a particular topic, getting into courageousness is already a great step forward. And you can always reword the goal later to raise the energy even higher to acceptance or peace. Allow the mind to start using its creativity to start generating possibilities of how this goal can happen.

ONCE YOU HAVE WORDED YOUR GOAL

Simply write your goal at the top of a clean piece of paper. Then allow yourself to explore letting go of your inner obstacles to achieving it by reading the goal silently to yourself and then writing down underneath the goal the first thought or feeling that comes to mind. Next allow yourself to use the simple releasing questions we sent you about a week ago which are:

Could I let this feeling go?

Would I let it go?

When?

Remember you are simple letting go of the feelings that are preventing you from achieving your goal, not the goal itself. Also, allow yourself to answer these questions with an open mind and heart and as truthfully as possible. Keep letting go using these questions until you feel better. Then repeat this process until you fill more positively about your goal."

These notes are taken directly from the Sedona method. If you are interested in finding out more contact www.sedonamethod.com

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